Attractiveness has nothing to do with your looks!

Attractiveness has nothing to do with your looks!

Our society has done a great job of revering the perfect asymmetrical face and the youthful slim body. But although someones looks captures your initial attention, what really draws you in is their Essence. That special something that you can't put your finger on. It transcends the physical form. 
Some people seem to express more essence than others. Perhaps you could call it charisma. For me, I see someones essence the most when they are talking about or doing something they are passionate about. Then they just light up from the inside and I'm riveted. And then I don't even see their physical body, instead I'm entranced with their Radiance, their Essence. 

That's what makes you attractive. Your Essence is what draws people to you, and the more you can increase your Essence, your inner Radiance, the more attractive you become. 

I have spent the last few months really exploring ways that I can feel more fulfilled in my own life. For the past few years I had felt like I was a sidekick in someone else's story and that was fine for a while but it was wearing away at me, and I couldn't maintain that space anymore (not that I wanted to, but change is rarely comfortable, so I put it off.) At the end of last year I discovered the value of doing things that fulfil me, and that has been the linchpin in helping me to be an active participant in my life.

Taking daily actions that fill my self-love tanks is the key. 
I have known for quite a while that I need to life a life fulfilled from the inside out, and I had been attempting many different ways of this, some more successful than the last. But it wasn't until I really paused and looked at my life that I realised there was one thing that consistently in my life has always made me feel good. And that is dance, and by doing that every day it has transformed my life. 

Filling myself up every day has given me the energy to make the changes my heart wanted me to make to help me live a fulfilled life. Dancing has helped me to stop trying to live my life the way I thought I "should". I've stopped trying to fit into someone else's shoes because I had mistakenly assumed they knew more about what I needed in my life than I did. 🤦‍♀️🤯
How can anyone else possibly know what I need in my life more than me? (That's a big neon sign flashing "lack of self confidence and self worth" there!)
am the sum of all my decisions, choices and actions. You are the sum of yours.
What works for me doesn't work for you, but I can help to guide you to find what works for you. 

Each of us knows in our heart what it is that makes us feel loved and nurtured.
But we are very good at putting blocks in the way, for what ever reason. There are millions of stories that can be made up about the blocks, and really trying to discover what they are can actually be just another distraction that stops you from just taking action and moving past them. 

If you don't feel like you know what fulfils you, I encourage you to sit down with a pen and paper and begin to make a list of all the things you love to do. Even if you haven't done them for a while and this list can be added to over a period of time.

What, when you do it, fills you with joy and happiness? They need to be actions that you can do by yourself. yes interacting with others can fill you with joy and happiness, but this is about filling you up from the inside out, not the outside in. 

Is it Gardening?
Nature walks?
Dance or movement?
Crafts or Sewing?
Drawing or painting?
Walking on the beach?
Making a nourishing meal?
When you are on holidays free from the normal day to day life tasks what do you naturally do?
What do you love to do even if you would never get paid for it?

Take some time to reflect on yourself and you life. 
And then... this is sometimes the hardest part... take action on it.
Start doing something. Anything from your list. Often you will start with the thing that takes the shortest time possible. That's great because its not about what you do, its about how what you do makes you feel.
The more you do the little things, the better you feel inside, and then you have more energy to do longer things that fill you up. 
Magically your life calms down. The stress and worries that were driving you become diminished. You have more patience with your family or at work and the things that seemed to matter before don't have as much influence on your life. 

So start now. Start today and allow it to gently begin to transform you. 

Here are a few video's I've made on the subject if you haven't yet seen them.


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